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Thursday, December 13, 2012

The Grass Isn't Always Greener on the Other Side



Have you always wondered what it would be like to be in somebody else's life? To be as successful as them? To be as popular as them? To be as smart as them? Of course you have because we all think that way at some point in our lives. Its part of building our identity among the rest of the 6 billion people living on this planet. But one thing which you need to take into consideration is this: those people in which we envy...their life isn't perfect either. They go through their struggles, their hardships, their punishments, their consequences. However, what you may notice is something which most people don't know how to do, which is making the best of what you have.

The people who always seem to have a smile on their face are completely content with what they have no matter what. They understand that they may not have all the talent, all the smarts, all the athletic ability. But they understand that what they have is who they are and they are content with themselves. All of us are blessed with certain qualities that differentiate us from everybody else. Either we're artists, musicians, laborers, writers, readers, skateboarders, basketball players, or what ever. Each and every one of us is good at some thing. But the challenge is knowing what exactly you're good at, and honing in on that.

I for example have been going through a struggle of trying to find what I'm good at because I felt as if I were talent-less.  I looked at other people who I thought were perfect because they were so good at everything that they did no matter what it was. So I was doing a lot of searching around and experimenting to try and discover what I was good at which would astound everybody! But sadly, no results revealed themselves to me. However, I realized something very important. The discovery I made was this: Who cares? These words were what changed my life around. Why? Because what I found out is this...no matter who you are or what skill you have, its for you and you alone to enjoy. Having other people impressed is just a side effect of you enjoying what you are naturally good at.

So I started looking at those people differently. I started to make a list of what I was good at, went through the list comparing me to them on that particular skill. I found out that I was better than them at most of the things on the list. I'm not trying to sound arrogant or anything. However, understanding what I do best is understanding that what was given to me as a gift is for me to enjoy. That realization is what got me to actually start writing my blog. I've always had a gift for writing and I love every post that I write or essay that I write because I feel a deep sense of accomplishment.

So what should you do to get over that feeling of envy for other people? Make a list. Make a deep list of all the things that you know for a fact that you're good at, like doing, and focus on those things ONLY! No more worrying about finding what you're good at because you may never find it unless you look into YOURSELF! You are the key to making it to the other side of the fence. The fence which you have to cross is doubt. Hop over that fence and you will find the greenest grass imaginable!



5 comments:

  1. Reminds me of this track
    http://youtu.be/RBumgq5yVrA

    It's human nature to think the grass is greener, and we never really know what we've got 'til its gone.

    I like your suggestion though. I'm an advocate for only comparing you to yourself (yesterday)... are you improving? It's taken me up to my 30's to realise this though.

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    1. That's a great song! And yes I am improving! I never felt so close to identity in my life and I'm loving every second of it! Glad you liked my post:)

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  2. Yes, you do have a talent. Several of them. Writing is only one of them, and it appears to be something that you enjoy. My suggestion from an 'old guy' perspective is to do what you like. I'll be back..

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    1. Thanks Stan! Writing is something I enjoy with a passion and I want to really make it part of my career. Also, I'll take your "old guy" perspective into careful consideration. Thanks again Stan!

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  3. This may sound a little cheesey but when i first started at TNT Mike O'Neil (RIP) saw me ready to give up when i saw Tyler excelling before me. He told me " life is never greener on the other side because no matter where you are there will always be somewhere you aren't" it made me think and after hearing "life isnt always greener on the other side its green where YOU water it" i realized, I have the ability to make MY life better and no one else has the power to do so as much as yourself .. thanks kyle. your blogs are amazing and really make people think

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